Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Ugh
I am officially the WORST friend ever. I totally forgot my best friend's birthday today, I don't know how?! I thought it was tomorrow... AHHH! And I spoke to her not once, but TWICE on the phone. Mortifying. Sigh :(
Tuesday, January 3, 2012
Sunday, January 1, 2012
Happy New Year 2012!
Alex and I made it through all of 2011 without posting. And so for 2012 I'm thinking we should try and post every day for the entire year! 365 posts till 2013, I think we can do it :)
Monday, December 6, 2010
Overachieving and Overreaching
A Sign of Imbalance
Overachieving and Overreaching
In general, an overachieving lifestyle is not balanced. What changes can you make to slow down and feel more joy?
Overachievers are people who have achieved but still feel the need to do more, creating an imbalance in their lives. People who exhibit this behavior may be trying to compensate for feelings of insecurity and doubts about their worth. They may be chasing unresolved issues from their past into the present, or they might not be looking at their lives as a whole, but judging themselves based only on one aspect of their being. If this is a word that we've heard used with respect to our choices and lifestyle, it is worth examining in order to balance our lives for a more rewarding experience.
If we find that we cannot allow ourselves to experience and enjoy the present moment, putting pleasure off into some distant future, it may be a sign that we are being driven to achieve more than is truly necessary. Pushing ourselves beyond the point of exhaustion, or to the exclusion of important people in our lives, robs us of true and meaningful joy. Once we make the connection to the eternal part of us, it can nourish us and allow our priorities to shift from chasing after an elusive feeling to being fully present in the moment so that we can live our lives in the now.
Sometimes we need to look to those we love and admire in order to realize what we value about life. We can take time to note what we like about others, and then turn the mirror to reflect the light of those same words and feelings toward ourselves. It can be quite a revelation to see ourselves in this nourishing light. When we can put the energy that we've been devoting to a phantom sense of achievement into the truly satisfying aspects of our lives, we can restore the balance between our inner and outer worlds and experience true joyful peace.
Overachieving and Overreaching
Overachievers are people who have achieved but still feel the need to do more, creating an imbalance in their lives. People who exhibit this behavior may be trying to compensate for feelings of insecurity and doubts about their worth. They may be chasing unresolved issues from their past into the present, or they might not be looking at their lives as a whole, but judging themselves based only on one aspect of their being. If this is a word that we've heard used with respect to our choices and lifestyle, it is worth examining in order to balance our lives for a more rewarding experience.
If we find that we cannot allow ourselves to experience and enjoy the present moment, putting pleasure off into some distant future, it may be a sign that we are being driven to achieve more than is truly necessary. Pushing ourselves beyond the point of exhaustion, or to the exclusion of important people in our lives, robs us of true and meaningful joy. Once we make the connection to the eternal part of us, it can nourish us and allow our priorities to shift from chasing after an elusive feeling to being fully present in the moment so that we can live our lives in the now.
Sometimes we need to look to those we love and admire in order to realize what we value about life. We can take time to note what we like about others, and then turn the mirror to reflect the light of those same words and feelings toward ourselves. It can be quite a revelation to see ourselves in this nourishing light. When we can put the energy that we've been devoting to a phantom sense of achievement into the truly satisfying aspects of our lives, we can restore the balance between our inner and outer worlds and experience true joyful peace.
Monday, October 4, 2010
When a Duke senior noticed that no studies had successfully quantified and ranked the "horizontal academics" of a college coed, she decided to use her own field research to do so. She put together an impressive presentation evaluating and ranking the 13 guys she slept with. Among the arousing moments with Subject #12 (who scored the highest): him rapping Biggie to her, hooking up in a room with doors that do not lock, and having Subject #5 (his roommate) walk into the room. The presentation is remarkably thorough, even itemizing and explaining the eight criteria used in the evaluation process, like size, talent, and creativity.
The student behind it notes that frats make lists all the time; still, she says she emailed it to three friends and only intended for them to see it. But with so many juicy details, and an obvious amount of effort put into it, she should have imagined it would go viral. While she could have predicted the consequences, I doubt the guys she slept with saw this coming.
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